Monday, May 18, 2009

Overcome Fear of Decision Making

Here's an interesting article... written by Lee Horton.

Rebecca was at a point in her marriage where dissatisfaction was turning into hopelessness. She recognized many good qualities in her husband, but their relationship had grown cold and distant. Her efforts to bring about change had been met with little effort. She understood that he did not want a divorce, but she was also sure that he didn't want the type of marriage she needed. Yet, when she thought of announcing her desire to divorce, she became fearful and her fear kept her from acting on the pain she felt in her marriage. Fear can interfere with effective decision making. Fears can be realistic warnings or irrational stumbling blocks to making a change in your life. When do we change? We will take the risk of changing when the pain of the situation is equal to the fear of the change. If your fear is unrealistically high, then you will tend to tolerate too much pain.

Healthy fear is the desire to avoid something that is unhealthy.Unhealthy fear involves catastrophic beliefs about the future.

Are your biggest fears due to outcomes based on realistic predictions or a response to fantasizing about the worst possible outcome? Such unrealistic beliefs can bind you from making a decision.
Look at your life ten years form now. How do you want it to be? What changes do you predict? Now look back ten years. Could you have predicted some, most or all of the changes that have occurred in the past ten years?

·Allow yourself to seek out information about all of the options you face.
·Give yourself time to go through the entire decision-making process; don't jump to conclusions because the process is uncomfortable.
·Avoid undo pressure from others.
·Take responsibility for the decision; avoid letting others' response be the deciding force.
·Reach out to others for support and the knowledge that you do not always have to be right in order to be accepted.
·Be honest with yourself; evaluate the basis of your fears and determine whether they are grounded in healthy concern or unrealistic beliefs.

If you buy a car on an impulse and the car ends up being a poor choice, you will regret the decision and the way you made the decision. On the other hand, if you search out information and thoroughly research the cars and your needs, then you will can still end up with a lemon, but you won't regret how you made the decision. Take time to examine whether fear interferes with your ability to make a good decision.

Do you have fear of decision making? How do you deal with it?

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